So Long, 2016

2016 was a year where a lot of bad things happened.

Like, a LOT of bad things. A lot of really, really bad things.

Some of it consumed us. Some of it flew under the radar, avoiding the headlines.

Many things had never happened to us before and we didn’t know how to deal with them. Many things did happen that we should have remembered from history, but somehow we forgot, and we repeated our great mistakes.

It’s hard to find someone who’d disagree that 2016 was, on the whole, a terrible, terrible year.

But many good things happened. Most of them happened at an individual level, and the country or the world would never know, but YOU know, because they happened to YOU.

Robin Williams once said, “You will have bad times, but they will always wake you up to the stuff you weren’t paying attention to.”

My hope for next year is not that we forget the bad things.

My hope is that we remember the good things as well — and in remembering the good with the bad, we learn to take a more mature, balanced view of the big round world.

Caitlyn Jenner: a Different Kind of Brave

Caitlyn Jenner Drawing

Immediately after Caitlyn Jenner’s Vanity Fair cover came out, my Facebook feed was filled to the brim with happiness and hope and support and all kinds of wonderful, positive things, among them kudos on the bravery of doing something like that.

Then, shortly after that, I saw half a dozen of those wounded vet memes that throws the word bravery back in our faces. And it disturbed me. So I whipped up a Facebook status update and gave it back to Facebook, and it started a conversation that ended up going in a completely different direction. Continue reading “Caitlyn Jenner: a Different Kind of Brave”